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In most cases it’s possible to reverse a breakup. Is yours?
Are you hurting from a breakup?
Does everyone you talk to tells you that it’s over, to let it go and move on?
But what if it didn’t have to be over?
What if you want to fight for this relationship and win your ex back?
My name is Kevin, and I am writing this 3 Step plan to help you get your ex back, even if you think your situation is hopeless.
is a terrible experience. It leaves you in pain, feeling depressed, angry and often very confused. It is common to be needy at this time. But if you want to be together with your ex, you will have to be calm, unresentful, and HAVE A PLAN. Most of the breakups are reversible and if you do the right things at the right time, then you will have your ex back in your arms.
I am here to help you devise that plan. Don’t worry, it’s not some mind tricks that you will have to play on your ex. Playing mind tricks is not the way to go if you want to have a long term healthy relationship with your ex. This plan is based on human psychology and how to use its principles to have a happy relationship with your ex. I encourage you to read everything in this 3 STEP PLAN and then take action. I can only tell you what to do, but until you actually do it, you won’t see any results.
In the first part of this 3 STEP PLAN, I am going to tell you what are the biggest mistakes that people make . These extremely common mistakes end up hurting your chances of getting back together. This is perhaps the most important part of this series so make sure you read each and every point and follow it.
#1 Begging, Pleading, Being Too Needy
After a breakup people make the biggest mistake of begging their ex to take them back. I know it seems like the right thing to do right after a breakup BUT IT’S NOT. In fact, it is the worst thing you can do at this moment.
Nobody wants to be with a needy person. Pleading and being needy is unattractive and is only going to push your ex further away from you. It will only make them think that they made the right decision by .
#2 The Doormat Syndrome
The Doormat Syndrome in relationships is going out of your way, sacrificing
to please your partner. It means accepting everything that your partner wants you to do without having any demands of your own just to get back with them.
If you find yourself saying things like, “Please stay, I will do anything for you” then you may be suffering from the doormat syndrome.
You don’t want that. Nobody wants that and for two very solid reasons –
a) It’s unattractive. Nobody is attracted to someone who doesn’t have their own opinion, needs, or their hobbies. So being a doormat will most likely be futile if you want your ex back.
b) Even if it does work, you will have an unhappy and smothering relationship which probably won’t last very long. And I am sure that’s not what you want.
#3 Text Terrorism and Drunk Dialing
Alcohol and phone DO NOT go together
This is again a very common mistake and yet detrimental to your chances of getting back together with your ex. People go out to have a few drinks trying to have a good time and the next thing they know they are
and making a fool out of themselves. Avoid this at all cost.
You have to
if you want to be together with your ex (explained in
of this plan). Texting them all the time and calling them just shows that you are too needy and don’t have anything else to do. As I said before, being needy is unattractive and you want to avoid this at all cost.
#4 Smothering Them With Affection
Saying “I love you” will NOT help your case
The logical approach to get your ex back seems that you should tell them how much you care for them and how much you love them as soon as possible before it’s too late. But trust me it’s not a good idea.
Well, chances are your ex knows that you love them and they know how much you care for them. In fact, if they were in a relationship with you, then . But they decided to
anyways, didn’t they?
“I love you” and “I really really care for you” isn’t what your ex needs to hear right now. Smothering them with affection may even push them further away.
#5 Giving Them All The Power
At this point, even if it was your ex who broke up with you, you don’t want to give them all the power. You don’t want to be the one who is always available for them. You don’t want to be their contingency plan.
Acting like your life is over without your ex will only lose their respect for you. In the history of breakups, no one has ever taken their ex back out of pity. So, doing such a thing is only going to hurt your chances.
No one takes their ex back out of pity. Not even this kid’s ex.
#6 Freaking Out When Your Ex Starts Seeing Someone Else
After a breakup, you feel depressed, angry confused, shattered, and are really hurting. At this moment, if your ex , it just tears you apart. You feel even more depressed and confused. And usually, when your ex is in this rebound relationship, they seem to become too intimate too fast, which makes it even worse for you, for example it took them 5 months to get physical with you and they are already sleeping with this new person who they are going with for only a week.
In this situation, DON’T FREAK OUT. Rebound relationships happen after a break up, it’s very very normal. But the good news is that they don’t last. And the reason why they became so intimate with this new person so fast is because it’s hard for a person to go from being so intimate with someone to being completely single. That is why most people (especially girls) will become intimate very soon with their rebound relationship because they are trying to get to that level of intimacy that they had with you. But usually, the faster the rebound relationship progresses, the faster it ends. They will soon realize that the new person isn’t right for them and they were just being intimate to quench their thirst for intimacy. And once they do realize it, they will .
Rebound Relationships are like Ice Creams. They aren't healthy and they don't last long.
So if your ex is seeing someone else, all you have to do is just be cool about it. That’s all. Sometimes, they start seeing someone else just to rub in your face that they are moving on. And you should not react to their relationship by telling them they are doing a mistake and they shouldn’t be seeing this new person. This is because if you tell someone to don’t do something, then you can rest assured that is exactly what they will do. In fact, if you do so they will go to the extent of prolonging their rebound relationship just to prove you wrong.
Instead if you do something opposite, and act indifferent to their new relationship and just
(career, hobbies etc.), it will get them thinking. And their rebound relationship will end soon like all other rebound relationships.
Now the above mistakes look innocent but are fatal for your chances to get back together with your ex. So make sure you don’t do them. I know most of the advice I gave above is counter-intuitive, BUT IT WORKS.
At this point, you may be thinking what if I’ve already made these mistakes?
Don’t worry if you’ve already made these mistakes. Like I said, they are very common and chances are that most of you reading this would have already made some of these mistakes. It’s still not too late. You still have a good chance of getting your ex back. I just ask you to not make any of these mistakes anymore. I print this page out and keep it with you all the time so you don’t do any of these mistake again.
Now That we have covered what you need to avoid, we can move forward to what you need to do. Click below for Step 2.
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