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on 8 December, 2009
I hope you feel better.
They mean well.
They always do.
It’s what people say when they hear someone they know is in pain or ill or uncomfortable.
I’ve learned that tears and “Why would you say that to me?” while an accurate reflection of how it makes me feel is pretty much guaranteed to lead to all sorts of unpleasantness I don’t want to have to deal with.
Whoa where did that come from I was just trying to be nice.
What’s wrong with her?
Can’t you just take it for what it’s meant?
I really can’t.
For one thing my brain doesn’t process subtext quickly enough to have conversations at full neurotypical voice conversation speed — I’m doing the best I can keeping up with the text alone.
But I don’t wear a sign that says “I am not good at auditory processing.”
If I did I’d be explaining that all the time too.
I don’t like talking that much.
(What’s that mean?
It means I hear fine.
I hear everything.
((When tinnitus isn’t in the way meh.))
What I have trouble with — and sometimes it’s harder than others — is pulling the thread of one person’s voice out of everything else that’s coming in through my ears and turning sound into meaning.
If there’s a television in my visual field this task gets harder.
This is why I take
I usually can’t make out what the person I’m eating with is saying anyway.)
I can take it as it’s meant when it’s someone who doesn’t know me.
When the person saying it doesn’t know that I have a disease that leaves me in pain all the time and exhausted all the time and makes it hard to walk and think and work and all the
that goes along with it I can accept “I hope you feel better” because it doesn’t actually mean anything.
It’s just politeness.
When the person who’s saying it has heard me or
(often we’ve also had the conversation
wrote about in her
post) it hurts.
Lately I’ve been not eating much and throwing up a lot and it’s not a lot of fun.
I mentioned that I didn’t feel good
and every comment was a form of this.
I even got one in imperative voice: “feel better soon.”
I have a chronic disease that isn’t curable and I have not heard of it going into remission.
This is not temporary.
Sometimes the symptoms are excruciating.
Sometimes the symptoms aren’t so bad.
They never go away.
Even if I never feel any better than I do right now my life will still be worth living and I’ll still be happy and I’ll be okay because I work really hard at living my life and being as happy as I can in it.
For me it includes accepting that I will not get better.
It also includes some complaining about feeling rotten because accepting that I won’t get better doesn’t turn it into rainbow-flavored unicorn shit.
Demands that I feel better discount all that.
I want to tell people to please not say that to me.
But I know how it’ll go.
I’ll be the mean cripple yelling at people who were just trying to be nice.
So I mostly don’t say it.
Bonus Section:
Since most essays from marginalized people on the topic of Insensitive Things Privileged Folks Have Said To Us will garner at least one comment along the lines of “Well if you’re going to tell people they shouldn’t say whatever how about you tell us what we should say.”
At which I’m like thanks for the derailment attempt that’s so thoughtful!
I am so delighted to do this work for you you have no idea.
But I do actually have something here.
An expression of sympathy that doesn’t include a request or demand that I do something impossible is always nice.
I’m a really big fan of “That sucks.
I’m sorry you don’t feel good.”
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I have a rule for travel:Never carry a map.Iprefer to ask for directions.
Foreign visitors are often puzzled in Japan because most streets there don't have name.In Japan,people use landmarks in their directions instead of street names.For example,the Japanese will say to travelers, “Go straight down to the corner. Tun left at the big hotel and go pass a fruit market. The post office is across from the bus stop.”
In the countryside of the American Midwest,usually there are not many landmarks. There are no mountains, so the land is very flat(平坦的). In many places there are no towns or buildings with tell you directions and distance. In Kansas or Iowa, for example, people will say, “Go north two miles. Turn east,and then go another mile.”
People in Los Angeles, California, have no idea of distance on the map: They measure distance by means of time, not miles. “How far away is the post office?” you ask.　　“Oh,” they answer, “It's about five minutes from here.”you say, “It's about five minutes from here.” You say, “Yes, but how many miles away is it?” They don't know.
Pe in Greece sometimes do not even try to give directions because visitors seldom understand thi Greek language. Instead of giving you the direction, a Greek will often say, “Follow me.” Then he'll lead you through the streets of the city to the post office.
Sometimes a person doesn't know the answer to your question, What happens in this situation? A New Yorker might say, “Sorry, I have no idea.” But in Yucatan, Mexico, no one answers, “I don't know.” People in Yucatan think that “I don't know” is impolite. They usually give an answer, often a wrong one.A visitor can get very, very lost in Yucatan!
　　 One thing will help you everywhere-in Japan, in the United States in Greece, in Mexico, or in any other place. You might not understand a person's words, but maybe you can understand his body language. He or she will usually turn and then point in the correct direction. Go iin that direction, and you may find the post office!
1.The passage mainly tells us that_______.
A.never carry a map for travel
B.there are not many landmarks in the American Midwest
C.there are different ways to give directions in different parts of the world
D.New Yorkers often say, “I have no idea,” but people in Yucatan, Mexico, never say this
2.In which place do people tell distance by means of time?
B.American Midwest.
C.Los Angeles,California.
3.In the passage,_______countries are mentioned by the writer.
A.seven　　　　 B.four　　　　C.eight　　　　
4.Which of the following is wrong?
A.Travelers can learn about people's customs by asking questions about directions.
B.A person's body language can help you understand directions.
C.People in some places give directions in miles, but people in other places give directions by means of time.
D.People in different places always give directions in the same way: They usr street namees.
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　　My father made a deal with me that he would match whatever I could come up with to buy my fir st car．From the time I wa s a saver．My allowance, back in tho se day s, wa s twenty five cent s a week．I grew up on a farm near a small town called Ventura．In tho se day s the area wa s mo stly agricultural．The climate wa s and still i s a s clo se to perfect a s you could get．I earned some of my money picking one crop or another．When I wa s about ten, a school friend' s family owned walnut orchard s(果园)and it wa s harve st time．She told me we could earn five dollar s for every bag of walnut s we picked．I certainly learned about picking walnut s that day．Not surprisingly, that wa s my fir st and la st time a s a walnut picker．
　　In 1960 my grandmother pa s sed away．She left me 100 share s of AT＆T．One hundred share s of stock don't seem like much today but back then tho se share s paid me＄240 per year in dividend s(利息)．That wa s huge for a kid my age．
　　By the time I wa s seventeen．I had saved up ＄ 1, 300 and I knew exactly that I wanted．Ithink my father wa s somewhat suri sed when I announced I had saved up ＄ 1, 300 and wa s ready to buy my new car．I'll never forget the evening my father said, “Let' s go see about that car”．I wa s so excited．
　　My father could have ea sily ju st given me the car but he alway s in si sted that hi s children work for what they got．Thi s wa s not a bad thing．I learned self-reliance．Self-reliance i s equal to freedom．Now that I think about it I need to be thanking my father．
Which one of the following s didn't belong to the saving of ＄1, 300?
Weekly allowance．
Her earning s by picking crop s．
Share s left by grandma．
Money earned from selling share s．
The underlined part in the second paragraph probably meant ________．
she didn't have the chance of picking walnut s
enough money had been earned for her car
the work wa s too hard for children like her
she had no time to do that again for some rea son
We can know from the pa s sage the author got her car at the age of ________．
The purpo se of the author' s father doing like that wa s to ________．
give the author freedom
be unwilling to buy the author a car
teach the author to learn self－reliance
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Ea sy Way s to Keep Your Brain Sharp
　　Everyone i s forgetful, but a s we age, we start to feel like our brain s are slowing down a bit-and that can be a very annoying thing．　　1　　 Read on for some technique s worth trying．
　　1．　　2　　
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　　2．Go for a walk．
　　Mildly rai sed glucose(葡萄糖)level s can harm the area of the brain that help s you form memorie s and phy sical activity can help get blood glucose down to normal level s．In fact, exerci se produce s chemical s that are good for your brain．　　4　　
　　3．Learn something new．
　　Take a Spani sh cla s s online, join a drawing club, or learn to play card s．A study found that mental stimulation limit s the weakening effect s of aging on memory and the mind．But the be st thing for your brain i s when you learn something new and are phy sically active at the same time．　　5　　 Or you can ju st go dancing with your friend s．
A．Focu s on the future．
B．Thi s can be e specially harmful to the aged．
C．It should be something like learning gardening．
D．So take a few minute s each day to do some reading．
E．But don't worry if our schedule i sn't filled with life－changing event s．
F．Luckily, re search show s there i s a lot you can do to avoid tho se moment s．
G．In other word s, when you take care of your body, you take care of your brain．
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来源：2013届辽宁省本溪一中高三上学期第三次月考英语试卷（带解析）
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Being organized is an important skill for school and life.When you're well organized, you can stay focused, instead of spending time hunting things down.__【小题1】__For schoolwork, it means having one notebook or place where you store all your assignments, so you know what you have to do and when.Keeping labeled folders(贴有标签的文件夹) for handouts(课堂讲义)and keeping all your schoolwork neat and in a specific place—these are the main parts of organization.For home stuff, being organized means having a place to put your things and putting them back as you go.__【小题2】__It means keeping your schoolbag, your shoes, and your clean underwear in the same places so you always know where to find them.Planning is part of being organized, too.__【小题3】_ Calendars, lists, and schedules can help you plan.You can buy or draw a calendar and keep it near your workplace.Making a schedule or “to&do” list for yourself is a good idea.Looking at your list helps you keep track of what you need to do.__【小题4】__ Check off things when you've done them.Use your list to help you decide which thing is most important to work on first.__【小题5】__But once you're organized, it feels great.The less time you spend hunting around for things or panicking about homework, the more time you have for better things, like reading a good book or playing.A．Planning means deciding what you will do and when you will do it.B．First, you should get your schoolwork organized.C．Add new thi Check off things when you've done them.D．You will benefit a lot from a good habit.E.What does it mean to be organized?F.It takes some extra efforts to organize yourself and your stuff.G.It means hanging your coat up instead of dropping it on the floor or throwing it on a chair.
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Being organized is an important skill for
school and life.When you're well organized, you can stay focused, instead of
spending time hunting things down. __66__&& For schoolwork, it means
having one notebook or place where you store all your assignments, so you know
what you have to do and when.Keeping labeled folders(贴有标签的文件夹) for handouts(课堂讲义)and keeping all your
schoolwork neat and in a specific place—these are the main parts of
organization.
For home stuff, being organized means
having a place to put your things and putting them back as you go. __67__&
It means keeping your schoolbag, your shoes, and your clean underwear in the
same places so you always know where to find them.
Planning is part of being organized, too.
__68_& Calendars, lists, and schedules can help you plan.You can buy or
draw a calendar and keep it near your workplace.Making a schedule or “to&do”
list for yourself is a good idea.Looking at your list helps you keep track of
what you need to do. __69__& Check off things when you've done them.Use
your list to help you decide which thing is most important to work on first.
__70__& But once you're organized, it
feels great.The less time you spend hunting around for things or panicking
about homework, the more time you have for better things, like reading a good
book or playing.
A．Planning means deciding what you will do and when you will do it.
B．First, you should get your schoolwork organized.
C．Add new thi Check off things when you've done them.
D．You will benefit a lot from a good habit.
E.What does it mean to be organized?
F.It takes some extra efforts to organize
yourself and your stuff.
G.It means hanging your coat up instead of
dropping it on the floor or throwing it on a chair.
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