向乌龟大师学习～Inner&peace…&Inner&peace…（功夫熊猫2观感）
最近的心情有点状况。看了功夫熊猫2的之后，找到了一点inner
peace（内在的平静），真是恰逢其时。逛了下豆瓣，发现排名靠前的影评都是些哗众取宠的东西，甚为不爽。决定自己写一篇功夫熊猫2赏析。先是第二部和第一部的台词赏析，最后写一点综合感受。特别感谢“友人”做的翻译上的工作，让我的任务变得简单：）&
The young lord set out to change his fate, but what he did next
only sealed it.（这位少主开始着手改变他的宿命。但他后来所做的，恰恰一手造成了他的宿命。）与第一部那句“One
often meets his destiny on the road he takes to avoid
it.”&（人常常在避免他的天命的路上，与天命不期而遇）相辉映。
&这是本篇故事的背景。有个概念叫self fulfilling
prophecy（自我实现预言），说的是以没有确凿证据的预言为契机，唤起一种新的行动，这种行动最终使起初的预言变为现实。
&算命先生: Your story may not have such a happy
beginning, but that doesn't make you who you are. It is the rest of
your story, who you choose to be... So, who are you,
Panda?&（你的人生一开始也许不算太好。但是，这并不能决定你是谁。你的其他部分的人生才能决定。你想成为什么样的人。那么…你是谁，熊猫？）
阿宝: I am Po.（我是阿宝。）
这句话似乎被给予很高的评价，不过我倒觉得这句话似乎只适用于教养和天生之间的比较（或者说养父和生父，除此之外，这条智慧可以应用的范围十分有限）。生育的过程，每个父母做的都差不多。而后天的教养，每个父母所做的含辛茹苦是如此相同，又如此不同，再加上我们自己的选择，所以才造就了今天不同的我们。
还有，这段话让我想到了萧（乔）峰。不幸的人啊～
&（一条应用范围有限的智慧，窃以为不应过分看重。这让我想起来韩非子里的一个故事：伯乐懂得相马，有他喜欢的人来求学，他就教人怎么相良马；而有他不喜欢的人来求学于他（不得不教时），他就教人怎么相千里马。原因是千里马太难得了，所以学会怎么相千里马其实毫无用处；相比之下，相良马反而是比较有用而能带来实利的技能了。）
&沈王爷: How did you find peace? I took away your
parents, everything, I scarred you for
life...（你是如何领悟到静的？我带走了你的父母！所有东西！我在你的生命留下了伤痕。）
阿宝: See that's the thing, Shen, scars
heal.&（知道吗？这就是为什么。伤痕会痊愈。）
沈王爷: No they don't... *wounds*
heal.&（不，不会的。伤口才能痊愈。）
阿宝: Oh, yeah... what do scars do? They fade, I
guess...&（噢，是哦。那伤痕会怎么样？会消失吧，我想。）
沈王爷: I don't care what scars
do...!&（我才不管伤痕会怎么样。）
阿宝: You should, Shen. You got to let go of the stuff from past -
because it just doesn't matter! The only thing that matters is what
you choose to be
now.&（你应该知道的，姓沈的。你得让过去的事过去。因为这已经不重要了。唯一重要的事情，是你现在选择成为什么样的人。）
&其实，关于伤痕和伤口的讨论，其实又有什么重要呢？可是沈王爷偏要辨个清楚明白。这让我想起来笑傲江湖里面恒山派求岳不群相救，岳不群见死不救，“定闲师太摇了摇头，道：“少侠何必过谦？岳师兄不能分身，派他大弟子前来效力，那也是一样。仪和，可不能胡言乱语，对尊长无礼。”仪和躬身道：“是，弟子不敢了。不过……不过令狐师兄已被逐出华山派，岳师伯早已不要他了。他也不是岳师伯派来的。”定闲师太微微一笑，道：“你就是不服气，定要辩个明白。””
&不服气，所以要辩个清楚明白。这是因为这个人还没有找到内在的平静。如果找到了内在的平静，看到的就是人和人、人和自然之间的和谐。到了如此忘我的境界，又何必非为这些鸡毛蒜皮的事情争个你对我错不可呢？为了争一个词表面上的意思，结果沈王爷对阿宝说的话的内在含义却听而不闻。这大概是导演要表达的意思。当然，执行上也许没有表现得太好。也许不该说“你应该知道的”，而是应该说“伤痕会怎么样不重要，重要的是…”
浣熊老师: It seems you have found inner peace, [pauses, sighs], at such
young age.（看来你好像领悟到了内在的平静，[停顿+不爽]&而且是在这么年轻的年纪）
阿宝: Well I have pretty good teacher.（那，（是因为）我有一个非常棒的老师。）
&那个停顿和不爽，乃是这两句台词的灵魂。既体现老师看到学生青胜于蓝的欣慰之情，又不掩饰最真实的羡慕之情。一方面正是这样的细节让人物鲜活起来，另一方面则体现他的真诚。如果只是道貌岸然的说前半句话，则有点太过做作和虚伪，好似岳不群了。阿宝的回答既真诚和真实，又巧妙，学习之。
平先生: And then I made the decision that will change my life forever:
to make the soup without reddish, and to raise you as my own son.
And from that moment on, both my soup and life have been that much
sweeter. Look at me, oh, don't look at
me.&（然后我做了两个决定，这两个决定永远地改变了我的一生。一个是做没有萝卜的汤。还有一个就是把你当作亲生儿子一样抚养长大。从那时开始，我的汤和人生都变得甜美了很多。看着我。不，不要看着我。）
&“从那时开始，我的汤和人生都变得甜美了很多。”是很甜美的一句话。而“看着我。不，不要看着我。”则是体现了为人父母下意识里不愿意在子女面前表现出软弱。和下面的话很类似：
平先生: Why did he go to save China? I mean, I know why. But why~? He
is just one little
panda～（为什么他要去拯救世界啊？我知道为什么…但是为什么啊？他只是只小小的熊猫啊！）
&关于“我知道为什么…但是为什么啊”，前一个“为什么”表示为什么要有人去拯救世界，后一个表示为什么是宝要去。不把问题说清楚，则是用语无伦次来体现人当时情绪激动。最后一句则表达出那种在父母的眼里孩子永远是需要自己疼爱需要自己保护的人。
平先生: So, how did it go? Did you
save&China.&（所以，事情顺利吗？你拯救了世界？）
阿宝: Yep.&（是的。）&
很喜欢这一段，并不是因为语言，而是因为阿宝回答完之后两父子相视一笑，仿佛拯救世界这么大的事情，也比不上父子俩重聚来得重要，只是那么轻描淡写相视一笑就交代完毕。父亲都没有多问事情的经过和细节，只要儿子回来就心满意足了。&
（这一部的暗线是阿宝发现自己不是平先生的亲生儿子。）
阿宝: There are something I should tell you. While I was gone, I
found the village where I was born, I found out how I ended up in
that reddish basket. I know who I
am.（有些事情我要和你说说。当我离家的时候…我找到了我出生的那个村子。我知道了，我是如何被放在那个萝卜篮子里。我知道了，我到底是谁。）
平先生: You do?&（是吗？）
阿宝: I am your son~&（我是你的儿子～）&
一番我找到了，我知道了的话，悬念顿生，最后峰回路转（这是技巧），肺腑之言，很是感人。注意这里和前面算命先生说的话的关系。
平先生: Let me cook. This is the least I can do. You
saved&China.（让我做点东西给你吃。这是我唯一能做的事，你拯救了世界。）
阿宝: Let me cook. This is the least I can do. You raised
me.（让我来吧，这是我唯一能做的事了。你把我抚养成人了。）&
与前面辉映，养育之恩比拯救世界来得更加重要。让我想起来，有个功夫熊猫感恩节特别版，似乎是去年感恩节期间在美国的ABC上播出的，也很不错。表现出厚重的家庭温情。这种温情，是没有国界的。强烈推荐！
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&功夫熊猫一里的经典对白明显比二要多，不过很多是语言上的风趣和讨巧，是快餐式的，我选取一些有营养的赏析如下：&
乌龟大师: One often meets his destiny on the road he takes to avoid
it.（另一种翻译：子欲避之&反促遇之。窃以为不妥，如前所述。）&
You are too concerned with what was and what will be. There is a
saying: yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a
gift. That is why it is called the "present."
(你太在意过去是怎样，将来会怎样了，昨天已是历史，明天还很未知，但是今天却是一个礼物，这就是为什么要把它叫做礼物（表“现在”的英文present，还有一个含义叫礼物）)
一般人不会把第一句话和后面两句引在一块。因为后面两句更加讨巧。后面两句话告诉我们要珍惜当下。但是，具体应该怎样做呢？第一句话则给出了更明确的答案：既不要太执著于过去，又不要太担心将来。（注意“太”字。）
乌龟大师: There are no accidents. (没有巧合)
浣熊老师: [sighs] Yes, I know. You've already said that twice.
([叹气]是的，我知道。你已经说过了两遍)
乌龟大师: That was no accident either. (那也不是巧合)
浣熊老师: Thrice. (三遍)
没有巧合，一切皆有因；唯人自召。我想这是符合佛的想法的。因为佛求的是智慧，那种理解万事万物（又超脱于万事万物之外）的智慧。佛之所以求智慧，原因之一是要用这个智慧来普渡众生。那么如果连众生受苦的原因都不知道，又怎么让他们得到解脱呢？而要真的理解，就不能凡事归为巧合。所以，有智慧的人相信因果，不信巧合。（当然了，我猜佛如果出生在现在应该也会学一学概率论神马的，哈哈）
后一句“那也不是巧合”我也很喜欢。
乌龟大师: My friend, the panda will never fulfill his destiny, nor you
yours until you let go of the illusion of
control.&（控制只是一个假象。除非你不再相信这个假象，肥宝是没有办法完成他的使命的，你也一样。）
浣熊老师: Illusion?&（假象）
乌龟大师: Yes.&（没错）Look at this tree,shifu: I cannot
make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its
time.&（看看这棵树，浣熊老师，我无法强迫它开花来愉悦我。时机未到我也不能让它结果）
浣熊老师: But there are things we *can* control: I can control when the
fruit will fall, I can control where to plant the seed: that is no
Master!&（但是有些事情是我们可以控制的，我可以左右果子何时落地，我还可以左右它被种于何地，这可不是假象，大师）
乌龟大师: Ah, yes. But no matter what you do, that seed will grow to be
a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will
peach.&（啊，是的。但是即便如此...&但是无论你做什么，这种子终会长成桃树，而你也许想要苹果或是橘子，但你能得到的只是桃子而已）
浣熊老师: But a peach cannot defeat Tai
Lung!&（但是桃子不能打败大龙）
乌龟大师: Maybe it can, if you are willing to guide, to nurture it, to
believe in it.&（也许它可以呢。只要你愿意引导它，培育它，相信它。）
浣熊老师: But how? How? I need your help,
master.&（但是得怎么做呢?&怎么做呢?&我需要你的帮助&大师&）
乌龟大师: No, you just need to believe. Promise me, Shifu, promise me
you will believe.&（不，你只需要相信。答应我，浣熊老师，答应我你会相信）
平先生: The secret ingredient is...
nothing!&（秘之又秘的配料就是。。。没有）
阿宝: Huh?&（啊？）
平先生: You heard me. Nothing! There is no secret
ingredient.&（你听到了。没有！根本就没什么秘之又秘的配料）
阿宝: Wait, wait... it's just plain old noodle soup? You don't add
some kind of special sauce or
something?&（等等，就是普通的面汤，什么特别酱汁，或者别的都没加？）
平先生: Don't have to. To make something special you just have to
believe it's
special.&（没那个那必要。想让一件东西特别，你只要相信那是特别的就够了。）
[阿宝&looks at the scroll again, and sees his
reflection in it]&（阿宝看着卷轴，看到了自己的倒影）
阿宝: There is no secret
ingredient...&（根本就没有秘方……）
大龙: Finally... oh, yes... at last, the power of the Dragon Scroll
shall be mine!&（终于，是的，最后龙轴的力量是我的了！）
[He opens the scroll - and stares at
it]&（他打开卷轴，仔细的瞧）
大龙: It's... it's nothing!&（什么都没有!）
阿宝: It's okay. I didn't get it the first time
either.&（别担心。我第一次也没看出个所以然来）
大龙: What?&（什么?）
阿宝: There is no secret ingredient. It's just
you.（根本没有神秘配料。就只是你。）
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功夫熊猫1，是讲的一个少年成长为英雄的故事。这时的主要矛盾是自己的理想和家人对自己的期待，成长的必修课是“独立”。另一方面，则是“One
often meets his destiny on the road he takes to avoid
it.”&（人常常在避免他的天命的路上，与天命不期而遇）。这两条是明线。&&
而暗线则是那个secret
ingredient&（神秘配料）。为什么乌龟大师明知道阿宝从天而降，却仍然将打败大龙的使命交给他？因为他知道一个人从优秀到卓越最难的一关就在于信念，而不是天赋或者勤奋（虽然也必须）。乌龟大师怎么会不知道龙之卷轴里面空空如也呢？所以，其实龙战士的称号交给谁，都无所谓。“只要你愿意引导它，培育它，相信它”，尤其是最后的一步，相信它。那么它就一定可以成为真正的龙战士。
所以，所谓的神秘配料，并不是“没有”。需要的只是“信念”而已。
作为热火的粉丝，我想到了NBA今年令人恐怖的达拉斯小牛队…那个打疯了的特里…别人一问他为什么打这么好，他每次开篇第一句就是：Because
I believe in
God.&（因为我相信上帝）詹姆斯和他的区别就在于詹姆斯缺少一种必胜的信念，一经挫折就蔫了。
功夫熊猫2，明线是打败沈王爷用武力征服世界的使命。暗线则是阿宝探求自己的身世之谜和寻找&inner
peace（内在的平静）。前面已经说了很多关于亲情的东西，这部分很不错。另外这个算命先生的预言是很有意思的：因为算命先生预言沈王爷会被一个黑白武士，也就是熊猫所打败，所以他就亲手去剿灭熊猫一族，那么必然会有熊猫最后来找他报仇。因此如果最后如果他真的被打败了，那么多半也是某只熊猫干的好事了。
为什么一个人在经历了重大挫折，知道了血海深仇之后还可以找到内在的平静呢？其实这正印证了第一部里面乌龟说的话：不要太在意过去是怎么样，也不要太在意将来会怎么样。这样一来，就找到了内心的平静。
内心的平静也并不是要冷漠，而是一个人在独立之外，还要和环境和谐相处，最后再达到不以物喜，勿以己悲。换句话说，不要因为一时的际遇而怀疑自己，做好当下的自己就可以了。
Inner peace…. inner peace…. inner peace…
PS1：说到乌龟大师，我很喜欢他第一部的出场：明明看着是上面先动，以为他的头会从上面伸出来，结果从下面伸出来，原来他一直是处在倒立的状态，哈哈哈；第二部用皮影戏的形式来介绍故事背景，很不错。
PS2：话说那些火爆的豆瓣影评很多关注文化侵略这回事，实在不是很有必要。美国人花这么多钱，看了一部中国文化的宣传片，人家可没抱怨。电影的形不重要，最重要的是有神。
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以上网友发言只代表其个人观点，不代表新浪网的观点或立场。所属栏目：inner peace什么意思 & 中国文化最近的心情有点状况。看了功夫熊猫2的之后，找到了一点innerpeace（内在的平静），真是恰逢其时。逛了下豆瓣，发现排名靠前的影评都是些哗众取宠的东西，甚为不爽。决定自己写一篇功夫熊猫2赏析。先是第二部和第一部的台词赏析，最后写一点综合感受。特别感谢“友人”做的翻译上的工作，让我的任务变得简单：）The young lord set out to change his fate, but what he did nextonly sealed it.（这位少主开始着手改变他的宿命。但他后来所做的，恰恰一手造成了他的宿命。）与第一部那句“Oneoften meets his destiny on the road he takes to avoidit.”（人常常在避免他的天命的路上，与天命不期而遇）相辉映。这是本篇故事的背景。有个概念叫self fulfillingprophecy（自我实现预言），说的是以没有确凿证据的预言为契机，唤起一种新的行动，这种行动最终使起初的预言变为现实。算命先生: Your story may not have such a happybeginning, but that doesn't make you who you are. It is the rest ofyour story, who you choose to be... So, who are you,Panda?（你的人生一开始也许不算太好。但是，这并不能决定你是谁。你的其他部分的人生才能决定。你想成为什么样的人。那么…你是谁，熊猫？）阿宝: I am Po.（我是阿宝。）这句话似乎被给予很高的评价，不过我倒觉得这句话似乎只适用于教养和天生之间的比较（或者说养父和生父，除此之外，这条智慧可以应用的范围十分有限）。生育的过程，每个父母做的都差不多。而后天的教养，每个父母所做的含辛茹苦是如此相同，又如此不同，再加上我们自己的选择，所以才造就了今天不同的我们。还有，这段话让我想到了萧（乔）峰。不幸的人啊～（一条应用范围有限的智慧，窃以为不应过分看重。这让我想起来韩非子里的一个故事：伯乐懂得相马，有他喜欢的人来求学，他就教人怎么相良马；而有他不喜欢的人来求学于他（不得不教时），他就教人怎么相千里马。原因是千里马太难得了，所以学会怎么相千里马其实毫无用处；相比之下，相良马反而是比较有用而能带来实利的技能了。）沈王爷: How did you find peace? I took away yourparents, everything, I scarred you forlife...（你是如何领悟到静的？我带走了你的父母！所有东西！我在你的生命留下了伤痕。）阿宝: See that's the thing, Shen, scarsheal.（知道吗？这就是为什么。伤痕会痊愈。）沈王爷: No they don't... *wounds*heal.（不，不会的。伤口才能痊愈。）阿宝: Oh, yeah... what do scars do? They fade, Iguess...（噢，是哦。那伤痕会怎么样？会消失吧，我想。）沈王爷: I don't care what scarsdo...!（我才不管伤痕会怎么样。）阿宝: You should, Shen. You got to let go of the stuff from past -because it just doesn't matter! The only thing that matters is whatyou choose to benow.（你应该知道的，姓沈的。你得让过去的事过去。因为这已经不重要了。唯一重要的事情，是你现在选择成为什么样的人。）其实，关于伤痕和伤口的讨论，其实又有什么重要呢？可是沈王爷偏要辨个清楚明白。这让我想起来笑傲江湖里面恒山派求岳不群相救，岳不群见死不救，“定闲师太摇了摇头，道：“少侠何必过谦？岳师兄不能分身，派他大弟子前来效力，那也是一样。仪和，可不能胡言乱语，对尊长无礼。”仪和躬身道：“是，弟子不敢了。不过……不过令狐师兄已被逐出华山派，岳师伯早已不要他了。他也不是岳师伯派来的。”定闲师太微微一笑，道：“你就是不服气，定要辩个明白。””不服气，所以要辩个清楚明白。这是因为这个人还没有找到内在的平静。如果找到了内在的平静，看到的就是人和人、人和自然之间的和谐。到了如此忘我的境界，又何必非为这些鸡毛蒜皮的事情争个你对我错不可呢？为了争一个词表面上的意思，结果沈王爷对阿宝说的话的内在含义却听而不闻。这大概是导演要表达的意思。当然，执行上也许没有表现得太好。也许不该说“你应该知道的”，而是应该说“伤痕会怎么样不重要，重要的是…”浣熊老师: It seems you have found inner peace, [pauses, sighs], at suchyoung age.（看来你好像领悟到了内在的平静，[停顿+不爽]而且是在这么年轻的年纪）阿宝: Well I have pretty good teacher.（那，（是因为）我有一个非常棒的老师。）那个停顿和不爽，乃是这两句台词的灵魂。既体现老师看到学生青胜于蓝的欣慰之情，又不掩饰最真实的羡慕之情。一方面正是这样的细节让人物鲜活起来，另一方面则体现他的真诚。如果只是道貌岸然的说前半句话，则有点太过做作和虚伪，好似岳不群了。阿宝的回答既真诚和真实，又巧妙，学习之。平先生: And then I made the decision that will change my life forever:to make the soup without reddish, and to raise you as my own son.And from that moment on, both my soup and life have been that muchsweeter. Look at me, oh, don't look atme.（然后我做了两个决定，这两个决定永远地改变了我的一生。一个是做没有萝卜的汤。还有一个就是把你当作亲生儿子一样抚养长大。从那时开始，我的汤和人生都变得甜美了很多。看着我。不，不要看着我。）“从那时开始，我的汤和人生都变得甜美了很多。”是很甜美的一句话。而“看着我。不，不要看着我。”则是体现了为人父母下意识里不愿意在子女面前表现出软弱。和下面的话很类似：平先生: Why did he go to save China? I mean, I know why. But why~? Heis just one littlepanda～（为什么他要去拯救世界啊？我知道为什么…但是为什么啊？他只是只小小的熊猫啊！）关于“我知道为什么…但是为什么啊”，前一个“为什么”表示为什么要有人去拯救世界，后一个表示为什么是宝要去。不把问题说清楚，则是用语无伦次来体现人当时情绪激动。最后一句则表达出那种在父母的眼里孩子永远是需要自己疼爱需要自己保护的人。平先生: So, how did it go? Did yousaveChina.（所以，事情顺利吗？你拯救了世界？）阿宝: Yep.（是的。）牛bb文章网欢迎您转载
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I have observed that the biggest issues and challenges I face in my personal life stem from a lack of a clear, unshakeable and unfaltering recognition and inner SEEING of my intrinsic self worth. I believe that a true sense of authentic happiness, peace and contentment cannot be achieved without this inner sense and recognition of one's self worth. Ofcourse! I do tell myself - or rather attempt to deceive myself - that I am worthy instead of actually KNOWING & SEEING with the inner eye that this is so.
Now, you may ask - "Mario, why is it so important to have an unshakeable sense of self worth?" I can't speak for everybody but I can speak from my own experience. My experience has revealed to me several interesting insights as it pertains to how I act to compensate for a lack of a clear recognition of my instrinsic self worth. I will divide this into two main areas of my life - financial and relational. I encourage you to seek out which areas in your own life where you attempt to compensate for a lack of an inner sense of self worth.
Financial - I am extremely ambitious, to the point of the absurd some might say. I have dedicated and focussed nearly all of my life to the pursuit and quest for success at the sacrifice of what most people may find important. One example among many sacrifices - I typically, habitually and repeatedly find myself not having time, energy or interest in engaging in long term relationships with women because I feel that they hold me back from achieving my dreams. Is this normal? I will let you be the judge. The question I have asked myself and have had to honestly answer to myself is "Why am I so driven to succeed in financial terms?" Was it the words of my abusive father that keep ringing in my head, "You are nothing but a failure, you will amount to nothing like your mother."? Was it the images I seen, as a child growing up in Kenya, in TV of the beautiful lives of the rich and famous in the western world in TV shows like 'The Bold and The Beautiful'? Was it the social alienation I experienced growing up in a lower middle class environment while exposed to a lot of wealthy children who seemed to have it all - the video games, the monopoly, the chauffeur driven rides to school, the well packed hot spaghetti lunches, the nice clothes? Or was it the wealthy beautiful half-Italian-half-Kenyan girl who rejected my advances at age 16 because she was Kenyan "royalty" and I was Kenyan "average"? I don't know. So many experiences, mostly negative, have shaped how I relate to money and my belief that without wealth I find it extremely difficult to SEE my inner worth. In a twisted way I have come to conclude that outer worth is a reflection of inner self worth. My experience as life unfolds will practically and not theoretically show me the validity of this conclusion or lack thereof.
On the one hand, I can deceive myself that I want to make a change in the world through all the money that I make but you and I know that this is really a small part of the equation. Isn't the desire to want to "change the world" a neatly packaged presentable form of self aggrandizement? Isn't it just another form of seeking a sense of self worth from without? Truth be told a big part of the equation is a belief that I have - only time will tell if it erroneous - that been wealthy will define me. That is to say that without wealth I am not a man enough, I am a failure, I am unsuccessful. Hence, I have pegged my sense of self worth to an external event i.e. The accumulation of wealth.
Where do you think these beliefs came from? In my childhood in Kenya, I saw that those without money were and are still seen as the proverbial "scum of the earth." This is a very strong image indelibly printed in the grooves within my brain and into the deep abyss of my unconscious mind. The call reverberating in my Soul been - "I DON'T want to be poor, I CAN'T! be poor, I MUST! be rich, Correction - I MUST! be wealthy." The belief been that I am worthy ONLY IF I am wealthy. Consequently, my lack of recognition and SEEING that self worth is intrinsic drives me to pursue external financial rewards which I deem will restore my sense of self worth. The danger in this sort of thinking is that I have relegated EVERYTHING! else to be secondary and way below this pursuit of riches. Translation, if something or someone does not contribute to my increasing my networth they are not important to me. As you can tell, I have been strongly influenced by the 'American Dream', the American spirit of capitalism at all cost. Is this healthy? I don't know. Time will tell. What I do know is that when the time is ripe I must make the change of view, with the help from the 7 Heavens, from extrinsic self worth to an inner sense of self worth.
Relationships - Here I am specifically speaking of my relationships with women and how a lack of a clear recognition of inner sense of self worth causes me to lose my peace. This may apply to you too in regards to your relationships with members of the opposite sex. I have observed that as a young man involved in the dating life I have pegged my sense of self worth to how a woman responds to my presence and BEING as a MAN. If she responds positively, I am at peace. If she responds negatively, I lose my peace. The ideal situation would be one whereby, regardless of how a woman responds to me, I maintain my inner peace, my inner sense of recognition and SEEING that I am worthy. I have observed that without this recognition of my inner sense of self worth I have the tendency to try to act in a way that I believe will please a woman rather than just been 100% percent me and letting the chips fall where they may - win or lose. It has been a very difficult thing for me to just be "Mario", love him or hate him, in the presence of a beautiful woman especially a physically beautiful woman. It seems like every time I interact with a gorgeous woman my senses begin to play MAJOR tricks on me. I put on a game persona, a game face designed to only show my beautiful, positive sides while hiding what I may 'deem' to be my ugly, negative, insecure side. Why can't I just be me - for better or worse? Why would I put on a persona? Isn't who I really am enough? These are the questions that have been plaguing the man lately. They say beauty is in the 'authentic' not the 'fugazi'; Well! I am still trying to discover the 'authentic'.
Here are some of the underlying beliefs that I have discovered that cause me to behave inauthentically in the presence of the physically gorgeous woman - She will not like me for just being me, or having a beautiful woman by my side is a measure of my sense of self worth, or if I can't have the hottest woman in the city I am not worthy, or if any woman that I attempt to seduce doesn't fall into my lap I am not worthy etc etc etc. You get the drift.......
I am a work in progress and I really do see the light at the end of the tunnel and I must say, it is fuckin' bright. The light of emotional freedom in the realization that I do not have to change who I am to appeal to who I am attracted to. In one's attempt to change themselves to appeal to others, one loses their sense of being, their sense of uniqueness. This lack of authenticity causes one an immense sense of pain. So the mantra rings true - "keep it real even if it emotionally kills ya!".
Which leads to the question, "What actually causes us to lose our sense of self worth?". It is the erroneous belief that our sense of self worth is derived from the external world - In my case having wealth and the physically gorgeous woman by my side. How do we regain and recognize our sense of self worth? First, by observing and acknowledging your external actions that really are driven from a place of low self esteem e.g. the money grabbing, the attention seeking, the approval hunger, the relationship manipulation etc etc etc. Just been aware of your actions creates the empowering dynamic of been able to choose differently. Second, challenging yourself to act differently from what you are accustomed to i.e. Opposite to how you have been reacting in the past. It will be difficult, it will be painful but feeling the pain in the heart without trying to escape it opens the door to a new way of being that sets the stage for your emotional liberation. I am presently just at this stage in my evolution. I do believe that continuing this process of observing and choosing to act differently in ways that nurture my self esteem, failing, trying again, failing and trying again will eventually lead me to inner liberation - the recognition and the SEEING that I am worthy just as I am.
Friends, this issue of self worth permeates every aspect of your life. Take the time to reflect on your own experience and see if there are some ways you can transform thyself by the healing of thyself.......Looking for more of the latest headlines on LinkedIn?