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This cannot come without a big disclaimer: this is not all-encompassing nor universally true and obviously not every single one of these will apply to someone. They are just some ideas, and personal experiences, of the times we think to ourselves, wow, they really do love me.
1. They bring your favorite dinner home by surprise just because.
2. They tell you they like the little things about you, meaning they notice the little things about you.
3. They don’t fight dirty.
4. You say you want to stay in and watch Netflix in bed and they couldn’t be happier to sit next to you and do nothing but that.
5. When you come home from work and you’re happy because you had a great day, they’re all smiley and happy too.
6. You’re okay with being around each other all the time… actually, you want to be.
7. They get ever so slightly nervous meeting your parents or friends.
8. They want to hear about your gastrointestinal issues (that’s an exaggeration but you get the point).
9. They don’t mind period sex.
10. They are enamored by the weirdest thing about you.
11. They know when you’re embarrassed, and they won’t exacerbate it in any way.
12. When they put blankets over you in the middle of the night.
13. When they play with your little brother.
14. They don’t shy away from talk of the future.
15. They don’t get defensive when you say you’re upset, they get concerned and want to talk about it.
16. They are selfless at the least expected times.
17. They seem to strangely enjoy listening to you complain and vent, because it makes you feel better.
18. They will defend you even if they don’t agree with you.
19. They show unprecedented kindness.
20. They apologize when they’re wrong.
21. They want to be better.
22. They ask for your advice.
23. Your opinions can change their decisions.
24. They’re not subtly nudging for you to change in any particular way.
25. There’s this look in their eyes that reminds you of your first love when you were young.
26. They are understanding especially when you don’t deserve it.
27. You make them laugh.
28. They are willing to give things up for you.
29. You haven’t made them change, but you’ve inspired them to.
30. They don’t scoff opinions they don’t agree with.
31. They go to great lengths to accommodate the things that are most important to you.
32. They don’t complain about decisions they made for your benefit.
33. They don’t guilt you if the compromise leans more toward your end than theirs.
34. They accept your past for what it was, and just say they want to make the future better.
35. They are faithful.
36. They are forgiving.
37. You confess embarrassing secrets and they don’t seem taken aback.
38. They integrate you in their lives.
39. They re-prioritize, and usually, you are first.
40. They are your biggest fan.
41. But also your sounding board when you need to hear the truth.
42. They make little efforts to make your day happier.
43. They write things about you.
43. If, after the breakup, they can’t look at or speak to you. It’s counterintuitive but it means they care.
44. They let you see them cry.
45. You can make them cry, in the good way.
46. They mumble those faithful words: “I feel like I’ve known you all my life.”
47. You never feel like an accessory.
48. Your presence in their life is never kept a secret.
49. Even if the intense passion comes and goes, they remain.
50. They don’t get over you for a long, long time.
51. They told their mom about you.
52. They’re never too busy for you.
53. They tell you that they think about you.
54. You start noticing that your favorite things become some of theirs.
55. They download your favorite song.
56. They keep your favorite cereal in the kitchen.
57. They plan to do things you once mentioned you’d love to.
58. They are genuinely concerned about you if you’re sick.
59. They’re excited about your future (together).
60. They don’t keep secrets from you.
61. You don’t get away with things you shouldn’t.
62. They are real with you.
63. You’re the first person they call when they get a new job or a promotion.
64. They don’t get annoyed when you ask them questions.
65. … Because they’re not going to hide anything.
66. They keep coming back, even if things get difficult.
67. They rub your back until you fall asleep.
68. You’re not afraid to fight with each other if its something that’s worth fighting for.
69. They value your friendship and your company, not just your role as a significant other.
70. They commit.
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“To share your weakness is to make to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.” ~Criss Jami
“You have to be strong.”
Those were five words I heard without end after my father was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer on Black Friday 2012—a day that couldn’t have been more aptly named.
In the months following, I marched, ran, skipped, crept, stumbled, crawled, and dragged myself through the darkest valley of my life. This was uncharted territory. This was an unprecedented season for us.
My dad was a fitness junkie, running and biking every morning, daily performing aerobics like a champ, and going for the occasional swim when the mood struck. The possibility of cancer had never arrested our attention—why would it?
Like so many others, I believed I’d have my dad for decades to come, that I would see his salt-and-pepper hair gradually transform to powder white as the crinkles stretching from the corner of his eyes grew in number.
The usual questions that plague souls affected by cancer surfaced, as if some clarion call had gone out to the nether world. Questions like:
Will the surgery be successful? (It was). Will the oncologist order chemotherapy? (He did).
When will this end? When will my dad know peace and strength again? When will our lives go back to normal?
The answers to those questions were a long time coming, until my dad was moved to ICU and put on life support in early September 2013, his organs failing.
“Be strong,” came that ceaseless whisper. “Be strong,” well-wishers said. “Be strong. Be strong. Be strong.”
And in the nine months leading up to that ICU transfer, I had been strong. I had remained unmoved and unaffected by any bad news, choosing to believe in a different outcome—besides, one must yet hope.
I was like the unshakeable lighthouse tower you often see in paintings, standing tall in the midst of a tumultuous storm, gray skies, roaring waves, and angry sea breeze everywhere.
Then one day, the feat of being that strong tower was simply too much to bear. I’d built a dam to keep back the emotions that threatened to overwhelm me but that dam couldn’t possibly stand the weight of those emotions forever. It gave way.
I sobbed like I’d never sobbed before in my mother’s arms. And so long as we’re being honest, I’d say I sobbed every day thereafter.
This expression I’d so feared, this display of vulnerability I had for so long resisted and avoided had at long last caught up with me. Yet I felt no shame or embarrassment. I felt no anger with myself or disappointment in my supposed weakness.
Instead, I felt other things.
It was then that I realized that in my efforts to be strong, I had been denying myself the very feelings I’d wanted to experience all along.
Too often, we build walls around ourselves in the midst of grief, pain, or challenges, inflating ourselves up to be proud people who don’t need anyone’s help, people who are getting by just fine, people who are strong enough to weather the storm on their own.
We close ourselves off to feeling anything in the name of self-preservation. We distance ourselves from emotions that by all means scare us because of how weak, vulnerable, incapable, or unable they may make us seem to our loved ones.
However, it’s only through allowing ourselves to embrace that weakness and it’s only through allowing ourselves to feel those daunting emotions that we invite love in to strengthen us.
It’s actually a beautiful thing for someone to be weak for that reason, because in that weakness, we rely and depend on others to build us up again, to make us strong, to comfort and encourage us.
An incredible bond is established between you and another person when you embrace your weakness. In that moment, transparency, honesty, and open communication win.
Not only have you both reached a new level of personal growth and grown too in your intimacy, but you’ve also given that individual an incredible gift: the opportunity to demonstrate their friendship, loyalty, and love for you by being there, by being a friend, by being present, and by enacting love.
When we bottle our emotions in and suppress them, however, never letting anyone see into our soul, then we are denying others an amazing opportunity to show up for us.
We are denying our relationships the opportunity to expand, evolve, and grow to a new level. And we are essentially stopping the flow of love between us and others—life-saving love that has the potential to give us more strength than we ever thought possible.
So I made the decision to embrace my emotions and whatever weaknesses happened to visit me, to welcome the vulnerable position that that would put me in.
If someone wanted to hold me while I cried, I let them.
If someone wanted to be a listening ear, I spoke from the depths of my heart.
If someone wanted to take me away from the hospital scene for a good meal, I didn’t decline the invitation.
If someone asked me how I was doing, I answered with honesty, even if it meant admitting that I was hurting and devastated.
Again and again, I felt the flow of love between myself and those around me. It was uplift empowering and encouraging. It was love like I’d never seen it in action before—the type of love that can only be perfected in our very weaknesses.
I had a role model throughout it all: my dad.
I don’t even wish I could tell you he faced cancer stone-faced and unmoved by the unending dirges of prognoses.
Instead, when the pain was too much to bear, when the figurative nights were blackest, when there seemed to be no light penetrating the all-encompassing darkness of cancer, my dad would cry, he would pray for one normal day, and most especially: he would openly talk with me about the weakness he felt.
But it wasn’t weakness I saw. In those moments, when he opened himself so entirely and became vulnerable before me, I saw only strength. I saw only courage. And on the morning my dad’s heart beat for the last time, the sun laying bricks of gold across his hospital room while I held his hand in mine, I saw only inspiring beauty.
Even now, as I write this, it’s with tears painting trails down my face. I embrace what we might call weakness because I know now that it’s in my weakness that I find strength. It’s in my struggle that I it’s in my challenges that I and it’s in my vulnerability that I find love, peace, and the will to go on.
Have you been spending too much time hiding behind walls in an effort to be strong? Have you been distancing yourself from others, fearing they will think you weak? Have you kept your emotions at arm’s length because they intimidate you, scare you, or fill you with uncertainties?
It’s time to give yourself permission to feel. It’s time to embrace the very vulnerability you shun and in doing so, discover the love, joy, and peace that waits for you on the other side.
In the end, it’s actually through our weaknesses that we become strong again.
In loving memory of my dad, ‘Bear.’ 04-01-1952 – 09-15-2013
About Lily Velez is a Certified Life Strategies Coach, award-winning speaker, spiritual mentor, and the author of an upcoming novel about forgiveness. To find out what dead weights may be holding you back from the fulfilling life you want, Lily invites you to access the free quiz at her website (). |
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