be in love 和 fall in love的程度哪个深?
当然是fall in love 啦 意思是坠入爱河be in love 就是在恋爱中的意思
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be in love feel affection and desire(for sb)fall in lovefeel a sudden strong attraction for sb所以fall in love比较深,含有strong的意思在里面
区别不是深浅,而是在时间.前者已经打得水深火热了,后者表示坠入了爱河.时间有先后.
fall in love~~~！！！
一样深，一个是强调恋爱的状态，一个是强调“爱上”的过程
应该是fall in love 吧！
肯定是FALL IN LOVE 。
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on Apr 13, 2014
Relephant reads:
“Don’t fall in love with me.”
It seems every time I’ve used that sentence since my divorce (eight years ago now), I’ve gotten exactly what I didn’t ask for: the guy fell for me. Reverse psychology? Certainly, not intentional.
My divorce was amicable but painful. After 13 years, I choose to leave who still loved me very much at the time. His suffering and my guilt over it ate away at me until I was ultimately and completely emotionally unavailable for anyone else.
I went through several relationships after my split, each time leading with that one warning: “This is for a good time not a long time. Don’t fall for me.”
Even though my intention was to do no harm, which to me meant not-committing—fear of karma, or worse hurt someone else again—each time I wound up in a soon to be doomed relationship with another victim left licking his wounds.
Looking back, I’m sure somewhere deep inside I wanted a relationship—true love and fairy sparks and not-so-consciously had my sights set on those industrious illustrious illusions of “forever” and “he’s the one.” (For sure this time.)
I’m not all that and a bag of kale chips! So, why did these decent guys keep buying in to a bad package deal?
Somehow, my being elusive (read: emotionally f*cked up) must have triggered their innate “chase and conquer” gene.
I didn’t do it on purpose. As my best male forever friend says, “We’re all here just looking for love.”
And don’t feel sorry for those men. They’ve all moved on to find their perfect–for-them sweetheart! And here I am still flying solo. (Incidentally, we’re all on good terms and many of my exes have asked me for relationship advice, so I can’t be all bad.)
A man I recently met and started engaging with in fits and starts told me,
He is right. Yet he keeps coming back, despite my ill treatment of him.
I decided to do some research to see if I was innocently (or at least sub-consciously) luring them in to feed my I-need-to-be-loved/desired/wanted ego.
I Googled(R) “how to make a man fall in love” and with plenty of sites offering an array of tips and tidbits, I found the answer to my high-success-rate-low-level love connections on Huffington Post.
In a simple, articulate article, the HuffPost author describes three ways of making a man fall in love with a woman. (Author’s descriptions.)
The Natural Way. This mysterious spark of nature cannot be defined. Not everyone gets to experience it but when it happens, you just know know know it. Whether chemistry, pheromones or unexplained animal attraction from across a crowded pizza joint… It. Just. Is. (I’ve experienced this. With my ex-husband. Go figure.)
The Devious Dastardly Way. (Oh dear.) Basically, it goes like this: Give. Withdraw. Repeat until the poor fellow is putty. (Insert guilty expression here.) Give genuinely and generously. Withdraw with reason. Go back and do it all over. Note: This is terribly manipulative even if subconsciously directed, but it confirms men like a challenge. The problem, aside from the obvious this-is-not-loving, is that the whole thing is insincere.
Infatuation does not = love!
Not only that, but this non-love game must continue to be played in order to keep him interested and more likely the game ends and the player (in this case the head-case chick) and the played-out (guy) both lose. Not good, lose-lose.
The High Road. Bring out the best in him. Encouraging his best self shows our best self. He’s less likely to be getting that elsewhere, and since energy flows where attention goes, those traits will grow. He’ll like that and love us for inspiring him to get there. Win-win.
There’s no right way or one way to “make” a man fall in love.
But there is a wrong way to entice a man that will leave all parties feeling poor-me. That sucks. (Trust me.)
I’ll admit I’ve inadvertently played this losing game. But I’ve also given genuinely and generously and been honest about my intentions. But even being up front about being “unavailable,” actions can mislead. Bad dog. I lose.
Be accepting, loving, genuine and honest. And have an interesting and fulfilling life of our own so it gives men the perception of the chase without the negative side-effect of dangling the cookie. The right one will fit into our lives if/when he shows up. (Whichever one he is, as I believe there’s more than one in this grand world.)
And if that’s not in our cards for this life’s journey then we’ll be alright anyway because we’re busy and loving ourselves enough that it won’t even matter.
And then I’ll get a cat.
I apologize to any men one I accidentally hurt on my journey thus far.
Incidentally, I did find there are some high-love-points things we can do to encourage a man to feel/continue to feel amorous toward us that bolster self-esteem for both parties. to see them!
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Everyone’s doing it … join the family.英语翻译I feel the heat around me I feel the beat surrounds me Could this be for real,I wonder No need for hesitation It’s time for celebration Will this be the night I’ve waited for When angels fall in love Heaven knows,does it show,oh If this love,will last for eternity Set me on fire (Chorus) I believe,I believe in love And like the stars above They shine,let it shine over me Set me free I believe in you And that our love is true Oh I believe,I believe I see that people dancing Boys and girls romancing They want this to last forever Cause underneath the moonlight Everything is alright We’re reaching our hands up in the air To where the souls alive Heaven knows,that it shows oh If this love,will last for eternity Set me on fire (Chorus) How could I doubt,what was meant to be Everything I needed was in front of me Your healing touch,will lift me up in the sky,so high
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I feel the heat around me 我感到了周围的热气I feel the beat surrounds me我听到了鼓声（敲打声）围绕着我 Could this be for real, I wonder我疑惑,这是真的吗? No need for hesitation 没有必要犹豫It’s time for celebration 这是快乐时光Will this be the night I’ve waited for 这会是我等待已久的那个夜晚吗?When angels fall in love 当天使也坠入爱河Heaven knows, does it show, oh 天堂知道,但这看得出来,哦～If this love, will last for eternity 如果这份爱会直到永远Set me on fire 把我放在火上（?）(Chorus) I believe, I believe in love 我相信,我相信爱And like the stars above 就像这天上的星星They shine, let it shine over me 他们闪烁,让他们在我的头上发光Set me free I believe in you 让我自由,我相信你And that our love is true我们的爱是真心的 Oh I believe, I believe哦,我相信,我相信 I see that people dancing 我看见人们在跳舞Boys and girls romancing 男孩和女孩多浪漫They want this to last forever 他们希望这可以延续到永远Cause underneath the moonlight 因为在这月夜之下Everything is alright任何东西都是明亮的 We’re reaching our hands up in the air 我们在空中牵到了彼此的手To where the souls alive 在灵魂升起的地方Heaven knows, that it shows oh 天堂知道,它看得到,哦If this love, will last for eternity 如果这份爱可以直到永远Set me on fire 把我放在火上（?）(Chorus) How could I doubt, what was meant to be 我怎么去怀疑?这是意味着什么?Everything I needed was in front of me 所有我需要的东西都在眼前Your healing touch, will lift me up in the sky, so high你的抚摸,让我上升入天,很高.
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